Most people fall in love during times of emotional vulnerability.

Question

When a person is able to see another persons deeper feeling and thoughts, they are more likely to fall in love with that person. In the article "Does vulnerability increase love and connection?" I cited "You feel a deeper connection to them because they've peeled away some emotional armor, allowing you to get closer." This piece of evidence tells the readers that if you were to show a person something that allows you to be vulnerable, then you are more likely to fall in love with the person and create a special bond that not many people have with you. Bonds like these build trust and trust is one of the biggest factors in love, without trust a person is unable to fully give themselves to the other person.

https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/does-vulnerability-increase-love-and-connection/#:~:text=It's%20about%20letting%20you%20in,allowing%20you%20to%20get%20closer.

Answer 1

I completely agree and also found another article that supports your claim. In the article "Healthy Vulnerability: Strengthening the Bonds in you Relationship" it states "Research from the journal of Marital and Family therapy indicates that, In most cases, vulnerability actually foster a deeper sense of connection and acceptance within a relationship." This can show that people are more susceptible to falling for someone because of that deeper connection that is being built off of trust and vulnerability.

 https://tobybarrontherapy.com/blog/vulnerability-in-relationships/#:~:text=Vulnerability%20Guarantees%20Rejection%3A%20Research%20from,and%20acceptance%20within%20a%20relationship.

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jmft.12229

Comments

I like this article that you chose a lot. It is interesting to me that you pointed out that in most cases vulnerability can create a deeper connection between people because they are more emotionally open. I see this all the time with people I know so it's nice to see this explanation come to light.

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I like your choice of finding a positive article about vulnerability and its healthy attributes. I am wondering if there are negative effects of being emotionally driven to love while vulnerable?

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I agree with you that when someone opens up and allows themselves to be vulnerable, it creates a deeper connection with the other person. The quote you referenced, "They've peeled away some emotional armor," really captures the essence of trust building. Trust, as you mentioned, is crucial in love because without it, people can't fully connect or show their true selves.

I also think that vulnerability helps create a sense of security in a relationship — when you allow someone to see your true self, it can make them feel more comfortable doing the same. This exchange of openness creates a safe space where love can grow and thrive.

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I completely agree with the claim you are making. I think its important to recognize that when a person is vulnerable they can open up more. Something I find interesting to think about is can this be a negative thing, being to vulnerable? Does it open doors that people may not want to share? In this article https://markmanson.net/vulnerability-in-relationships I found a fascinating quote, "The emotional vomit gave me the awareness to do my healing, but it wasn’t the healing by itself. Eventually, you have to become accountable for your own thoughts and feelings and work them out. If not, then you’re just going to continue to be angry and frustrated, turning off everyone you come across". This makes me realize that being emotionally vulnerable can help you grow.

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I completely agree with the claim you made. I found another article that supports what you're saying as well.  In Psychology Today's article, Dianne Grande talks more about how emotional vulnerability is often perceived as weakness but at the same time is a major source of strength in relationships. I think this definitely aligns with the idea that being emotionally open can foster a deeper sense of connection and acceptance within a relationship. I'm wondering how the role of vulnerability can play a role in someone's emotional attraction. I've heard from different people that they will either date/not date someone because of their vulnerability being either too much or too little. What's your perspective on this?  


https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-it-together/201902/emotional-vulnerability-as-the-path-to-connection#:~:text=It%20is%20only%20through%20allowing,feelings%20as%20valid%20and%20important.

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I enjoyed the article you chose to support your claim. In today's world, vulnerability is typically perceived as a negative thing, where it is difficult for a person to be vulnerable. It is interesting how you were able to use this article and perceive vulnerability in a positive sense, where people can find connections and relations when being in this state that is seen as "negative".

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I agree with the claim "most people fall in love in times of emotional vulnerability." The claim is partially supported by the article provided but not proven by larger studies. The argument is accurate and reasonable, and the sources used provide evidence. However, the term "most people" should be used as a generalization because this is not a 100% proven fact. Further investigating the article provided, I went to the link and found the quote, "This act of sharing makes you more inclined to feel safe around them, more likely to trust them, and consequently, more capable of loving them. You feel a deeper connection to them because they’ve peeled away some emotional armor, allowing you to get closer." This supports the claim by saying that the more you share your feelings and trust to another person, the more likely you are to have a deeper connection. Although the evidence is accurate, there should be more sources added to strengthen the claim. Another article I found by Psychology Today states, "It is only through allowing ourselves to be vulnerable that we can understand, feel empathy, forgive each other, and know that we are worthy of love and belonging." Vulnerability can deepen relationships and create stronger emotional bonds. Being authentic with your partner and sharing trust allows for a healthier and stronger emotional bond. An article I found by Intimate Wellness which states, "Research shows that couples who practice vulnerability report higher satisfaction. When you’re vulnerable with your partner, you create a feedback loop of trust." There is a deeper level of understanding in the relationships that are willing to communicate their feelings. All of the quotes in this article are properly linked, and references are also added. Overall, the fact check is accurate and could be stronger if more articles were added.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-it-together/201902/emotional-vulnerability-as-the-path-to-connection?msockid=1d0f652f80dd69033a2471e4813368a9

https://intimatewellness.net/vulnerability-in-relationships/

https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/does-vulnerability-increase-love-and-connection/#:~:text=It's%20about%20letting%20you%20in,allowing%20you%20to%20get%20closer

Answer 2

There is a strong correlation found between a growth in vulnerability leading to increased connection. This principle can then be applied to validate the claim, "Most people fall in love during times of emotional vulnerability", as it takes a sense of openness to nurture the foundations of relationships. Especially noted within the backing source of this claim, Does Vulnerability increase love and connection, is the concept that, "sharing makes you more inclined to feel safe around them, more likely to trust...more capable of loving them" meaning that vulnerability is a gateway to deep connection. Facilitating this idea are other works such as, The Value of Vulnerability In Relationships by Emma Allen and Madisen Bird, where examined is the benefits of exposing ones true self in the face of intimacy. Loving relationships seem to mirror a symbiotic dynamic where, "as we develop the courage to fully be authentic and vulnerable" we are able to find legitimate grounds to love leading to feeling, "more secure in our relationships." Within romantic relationships releasing initial "fronts" acts as a sign of comfortability to our partners. Knowing that they have are capable to reveal themselves beyond what they output shows security, and further a want to share connection. When we can love beyond facades, that is when love can root itself. Love is founded upon understanding, but understanding can never begin without vulnerability, making it essential/a key factor in growing relationships.  

https://scholarsarchive.byu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1005&context=familyperspectives/

Comments

The research you did about this topic was very interesting and evidence-based, which gave a lot more truth to the claim you responded to. You gave useful insight in your response, which was helpful to read about to get a better understanding of vulnerability and relationships. Great job!

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Hello! I appreciate your effort of how deeply you explored the connection between the relationship of vulnerability and love! I agree with the inference of the idea that sharing our true selves only creates trust, but also builds a sense of safety and connection. The article you use definitely helped highlight that theme further of how important real intimacy is, and appreciate how your analysis highlighted the value of that, not only in a relationship, but in life. I would wonder if you believe that knowing this it will not only help you have lasting relationships romantically, but what your  take on this also in friendships and other relationships?

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I like the source you used, it is very strong and trustworthy, not to mention the detail and analysis you added to the original claim adds to the discussion of the post. The quotes you add about vulnerability and love show how active you were in the research, and especially the final sentence "love is founded upon understanding, but understanding can never begin without vulnerability" is not only poetic but shows the deep understanding you have about the topic researched.

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The article you used is very powerful and an insightful reading, it is from a scholarly archive and it connects to the claim of how vulnerability contributes to a sense of security and authenticity in romantic relationships. One thought I had was it would be interesting to understand how different people of different cultures handle emotional vulnerability

Answer 3

While I could somewhat agree with this claim, the main source you used is a little untrustworthy. The website does not cite where they are getting any of their claims from, and after further investigation I found that this website is actually a podcast. The line that you quote is from a podcast by Paul Colaianni. Paul is personal empowerment coach and started his podcast because of personal experiences that he went through that were traumatic. He says that he met his wife when he was most vulnerable and breaking down in front of her, hence why he feels so strongly that people fall in love during times of emotional vulnerability. But there is no factual evidence for this claim, this is an opinion that a heartbroken man had and this is his own experience. Just because he witnessed this and is telling the world about it doesn't make this true for everyone on the planet, and it definitely doesn't make it a fact.

Comments

Nice work pointing out that the claim's source may not be ideal -- did you search online to see if you could confirm the claim or debunk it using other sources?

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I like what you’re saying here, I wonder if there are actual studies done on this or if it’s just a person-to-person feeling. I can see how it’s true, but writing a news article about it with weak evidence can be misleading